"Brain circuits take engrams (memory traces), and produce neuroconnections and neuropathways only if they are bombarded for 21 days in a row. This means that our brain does not accept ‘new’ data for a change of habit unless it is repeated each day for 21 days (without missing a day)."
Of course, if there is a replacement habit to take the old one's place, then the "breaking the habit" task is much easier!
I was in the process of my 21 days. I was determined to break the habit of wanting/needing to speak with my soon-to-be-ex-husband. I was actually doing so well. And then he called. Of course when I saw the number on the screen I froze for a sec, realizing I am recognizing those digits. In thinking he is finally missing me, I answered the phone, only to find out all he needed was for us to tie up some loose ends regarding our final separation.
Darn it. Not just that he didn't miss me, but now I am back to the beginning in my efforts to break the habit.
After that call, I needed a little fresh air break, and I strolled over to my local coffee joint, to sit in the sun & read the paper. They had the radio playing, when I heard this song. I know this song very well and am very fond of it, but today, at that moment, it was like it was meant for me and for where I am currently at.
"I can't take my mind off of you.......... Till I find somebody new"